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Should I Say Something? - 3/8/2010 10:00:01 PM
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Adrenalinejunkie
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OK, so there's this girl that I've known all my life (and used to be friends with) and I notice that what she does is get real close and friendly with a person and stay close to them for a couple years and then totally ditch them for someone else. She did it to me a few years back and then two years later she did it to my best friend, and hurt her very badly. She replaced my best friend with my sister. They're still really close right now, but I know that she'll ditch my sister for someone "better".
I don't want my sister to be hurt by her like my best friend and I were, so should I say something to the girl or warn my sister? I don't think the girl realizes what she's doing. I'm just really not sure what to do.
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RE: Should I Say Something? - 3/8/2010 10:43:19 PM
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deermousie
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There was a teenager in my church who did this, and she hurt a lot of people.
If this gal stays friends with your sister, then they are friends. If the gal dumps your sister, then your sister will be hurt but not mortally so.
Your sister might feel the need to "protect" her friend from an accusation from you, and it could drive a wedge between you and her. Instead, I might mention something low key during a conversation with her like, "Did it seem to like your friend was friends with A for two years and then kinda dumped their friendship, and then did the same thing to B?" And then I would leave it alone after that. Or else I would just leave it alone entirely.
Your sister is a big girl and we can't make sure no one ever hurts others; that's impossible. Being friends with flakey people is part of life (we're all sinners) and it could be God is allowing this to teach your sister something (maybe about His faithfulness; who knows? But God is good). She is blessed to have you for a sister who will love her when this "friend" no longer does, if indeed she dumps her. I hope she doesn't, but it's worrisome when someone has a track record of dumping friendships.
[Edited because I spell like an aardvark]
< Message edited by deermousie -- 3/8/2010 10:56:47 PM >
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RE: Should I Say Something? - 3/8/2010 11:01:51 PM
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jaimestarcross
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I wouldn't say anything because there will be people who will drift in and out of your life... this is a common happening.
You may not like it but you will find others who are like that as you journey through life.
All bets are off if this girl is doing harmful things or saying stuff that's untrue about you ...but if she's just going off and making a new friend then let it go and forgive this girl for being flighty.
The other thing is... something could of happened in the friendships that she found not to her liking...some people will say something and others just move on and not bother confronting that person over whatever the issue was.
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RE: Should I Say Something? - 3/8/2010 11:17:58 PM
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willfs
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Totally understand. I can't tell you what to do. I just can tell you what I did. I kept a close distance from them. (Man it feels so good not to have those types of friends in your life although I can't speak for her because she might not be anything like those I have encountered). I also learned how important it was to be close to those who are good people and not just those who are the funnest of the bunch. Being dissapointed by the fun ones who don't think of others feelings drains all the fun from the relationship. Someone who appears boring but is more selfless and sensitive to the feelings of others is so much more fun to be friends with.
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