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Women who like power tools - 11/20/2008 1:21:03 PM
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PaleHawkWoman
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I like power tools, hand tools, all kinds of tools, and love to try new ones out. I can build or repair most anything and like the feeling of accomplishment that goes along with that. I can do most of the basic maintenance on the car and truck (gotta replace the starter and solenoid on the truck this weekend), and never mind getting my hands dirty or greasy.
Yeah, my hands are working hands- I keep my nails closely-trimmed and scrubbed, and use intensive lotion so my hands don't get too rough. I'm far more comfortable in jeans and a t-shirt and a pair of sneakers or work boots than getting dressed up, but I clean up quite well and make my clothes with classic tailoring style. Talking about decorating bores the daylights out of me, but start talking about renovations and the like and my ears perk right up. Ask me what I want for a present and I'll tell you what tool I need.
Most of my female cousins and close friends are pretty much the same. Some other women, however, think my talents and interests are too much like a guy, and one commented that I might make my husband feel inadequate because I'm doing the manly stuff (he doesn't- we work together on projects around the house).
So how do guys feel about a woman who likes to use tools and build stuff? If a woman could handle a tool or do a job better than you could, would it make you feel that she was strange or that you were inadequate? If a woman preferred getting a miter-saw over jewelry, would you be okay with that?
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RE: Women who like power tools - 11/20/2008 3:08:14 PM
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And what is the problem with that!?
Women who work hard, regardless of the tools, are jewels and should be highly prized! ( I remember something in Proverbs....maybe....31?)
Any man who is intimidated by a woman's knowledge of tools, remodeling, underwater basket weaving, etc...needs to check his ego a bit. There is an opportunity for companionship available in every project that comes about! Most men will tell you that they prefer companionship in their activities and it sounds like you two have that going for you.
Men also want to be admired by their woman. Therein lies the perceived "rub". If a man is admired for other qualities and skills that he possesses, then his tank gets filled. He doesn't just have to be admired for his skill with a tack hammer.
As far as the jeans, sweats, and the like, those are fine when working around the house, but it is nice to have your physical beauty shine through along with your inner beauty. Remember that men are visually stimulated, but if the way you're dressing isn't affecting your love life, just go with what's been working.
I wouldn't put too much stock in what others opine about your activities and manner of dress. The lowest common denominator is between you and your husband. Ask him what he thinks, but remember that it's much more appealing to be married to a woman that has passions than it is to be married to a woman reduced to nothing more than a cardboard cutout with no life in her.
After all is said and done, your husband the one whose opinion makes the biggest difference.
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RE: Women who like power tools - 11/20/2008 3:46:01 PM
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Thanks Jeff! BTW my dad is retired USMC, so Semper Fi!
My husband is a no-fuss guy. He thinks I'm beautiful whether I'm dressed up or standing there with garden dirt all over me. Conversely, he makes my motor purr whether he's in a suit (which is so rare an occurrance as to be an anomaly) or wearing his holey jeans and t-shirt and wiping grease off his hands. We do let each other know how much we appreciate what the other does, and I've heard him brag to other guys that he doesn't need to call a repairman if something needs to be fixed-if he can't get to it, his wife can.
Do you think there's a culture of learned helplessness between men and women that would contribute to the "that's not very feminine" attitudes I've gotten from some ladies? I mean, I grew up on a farm and there was no room for helplessness- if a job needed doing you learned how to do it. Most of the girls I grew up with all had to be able to cook, clean, and drive a tractor. No problem.
I'd think I make it easy for my husband when it comes to buying me something for my birthday or our anniversary. 
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RE: Women who like power tools - 11/20/2008 4:02:14 PM
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Yes, PaleHawkWoman, I would definitely say that since the dawn of the Industrial Age, there is a culture of learned helplessness between men and women. I also grew up on a farm. When the hay needed to get into the barn, everyone helped...including the women. Heck my 4yr old cousin, a female, drove the tractor while we threw the hay on the trailer.
I also see that women tend to judge each other, rather viciously I might add, out of instinct or something. So, when it comes to criticism of what a woman is doing, I like to consider the source...
So go on! Be happy in your dungarees under the hood of an automobile!
(Just a note: Men tend to want to compliment their woman when they go out, so if you like to see your man in a suit...) 
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RE: Women who like power tools - 11/20/2008 6:08:08 PM
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Hello PaleHawkWoman
If I may, could I ask you som personal questions. "Do you like to be charmed by your husband? Do you enjoy being treated like a treasure that he wants to protect? Would you don an evening dress for a special night out?
In other words, is your heart feminine in nature? I've seen men and ladies on those makeover TV shows working together. Looks cool to me. Now another question. How do you respond if when you and your husband are working together when he steels a kiss an the most unexpected time.
Now, if you are secure in your fimininity, I would tell your critics to go take a hike. You could model for your husbands in just levis and a tool belt around your waist. How's that for a sexy makeover?
I'll give you a hint, though. Don't ever suggest to your husband that you can use tools better than he can or work out a solution to anything better than he can. You may find yourself in a heep of hurt.
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RE: Women who like power tools - 11/20/2008 8:13:13 PM
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Hello PaleHawkWoman
If I may, could I ask you som personal questions. "Do you like to be charmed by your husband? Do you enjoy being treated like a treasure that he wants to protect? Would you don an evening dress for a special night out?
In other words, is your heart feminine in nature? I've seen men and ladies on those makeover TV shows working together. Looks cool to me. Now another question. How do you respond if when you and your husband are working together when he steels a kiss an the most unexpected time.
Now, if you are secure in your fimininity, I would tell your critics to go take a hike. You could model for your husbands in just levis and a tool belt around your waist. How's that for a sexy makeover?
I'll give you a hint, though. Don't ever suggest to your husband that you can use tools better than he can or work out a solution to anything better than he can. You may find yourself in a heep of hurt.
Yes I love when my husband charms and flirts with me-makes me feel all warm and tingly and he's one of the few people who can actually make me blush. He does treasure me and is protective despite the fact I have had basic combat training and can handle weapons quite well. I appreciate that. He also takes care of me when I'm sick and will go to the drug store in the middle of the night- without a single complaint- if I needed something.
I can and do dress up and enjoy doing so. I don't wear heels, but I DO have some very lacy lingerie I wear under my clothes, and he knows I'm wearing it... which makes the evening even more fun. And I am a huge tease with him.
When we're working, we both steal kisses and flirt. I won't go into further detail here, but sometimes we don't get as much work done as we should.
We both have areas where one of us is better than the other- he's better with electrical stuff and handling a blow torch than I am, and I'm better at carpentry and masonry. There's no competition there tho, so no one's strutting and crowing about who's better. I wouldn't ever think about doing that anyway.
Tool belt and Levi's... how about just the tool belt? Heck I've modeled for him in just an apron before while cooking dinner. He said it was the best meal I'd ever cooked.
What's that live from The Pajama Game?
"Married life is lots of fun..."
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RE: Women who like power tools - 11/20/2008 10:33:14 PM
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So how do guys feel about a woman who likes to use tools and build stuff?
I was going to propose but then saw that you were already married.
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If a woman could handle a tool or do a job better than you could, would it make you feel that she was strange or that you were inadequate?
No way. But I may need to go out and buy more tools.
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If a woman preferred getting a miter-saw over jewelry, would you be okay with that?
As long as she let me use it too, no problem.
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RE: Women who like power tools - 11/21/2008 9:50:59 AM
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So how do guys feel about a woman who likes to use tools and build stuff? If a woman could handle a tool or do a job better than you could, would it make you feel that she was strange or that you were inadequate? If a woman preferred getting a miter-saw over jewelry, would you be okay with that? My wife (also part Cherokee) has rebuilt a couple of sofa-beds, including the mechanisms. She has done several re-upholstery jobs, and one time gutted a room to the studs, made a new external doorway and drywalled it herself. Not that I could not do that but was working 60 hrs a week at the time and she was a SAHM. So while the kids were in school...
Obviously I am quite proud of her and her many talents. (incredible seamstress!!)
She only wants power tools when a project presents itself.
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RE: Women who like power tools - 11/21/2008 6:43:34 PM
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Hello again.
Your reply to my questions was a breath of fresh air. I see that the two of you have a relationship that many envy. Just don't let your man get to close to you if you're using a chain saw.
May the Lord continue to bless both of you.
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RE: Women who like power tools - 11/21/2008 11:44:20 PM
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PaleHawkWoman
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So how do guys feel about a woman who likes to use tools and build stuff? If a woman could handle a tool or do a job better than you could, would it make you feel that she was strange or that you were inadequate? If a woman preferred getting a miter-saw over jewelry, would you be okay with that? My wife (also part Cherokee) has rebuilt a couple of sofa-beds, including the mechanisms. She has done several re-upholstery jobs, and one time gutted a room to the studs, made a new external doorway and drywalled it herself. Not that I could not do that but was working 60 hrs a week at the time and she was a SAHM. So while the kids were in school...
Obviously I am quite proud of her and her many talents. (incredible seamstress!!)
She only wants power tools when a project presents itself.
I see you're a very lucky guy, Dave. I've made a bit of money stripping old bed frames down and repainting or staining them. The best thing about doing stuff yourself is that you know it was done right. SO have y'all built a workshop or using the garage?
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