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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 12/10/2008 6:36:52 PM
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BeeLuvsAva
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When is it OK to tell a patronising client that using endearments in a professional relationship is not OK?
Kylie
wow, the first time he says or does anything it should be stopped there, under no circumstances is it okay. Is he always like that?
Well I am done with this half of the week, and it has been so long, and so busy! I was debating on calling my boss and telling him I would be working from home on Monday because both me and Ava are sick, but I decided against it since I have only been back to work for just over a week now. I think I might be starting to get into the swing of things though, it will probably take just a bit longer for me to get Ava on a schedule but so far so good, I am just really tired. I don't think my life has ever been this busy 
Kat I looked at the flylady website, I have not had a chance to read it all yet(it's a lot of info  ), but so far it has been helpful, thanks!
I hope work for all you lady's is going alright, have a great week!
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 12/11/2008 7:49:36 AM
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My friend who lost her job was brought back 'as though nothing happened'
(Duh, because nothing happened)
We keep calling it a Christmas miracle because you know how it is to get a corporation to reverse their stance on ANYTHING.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 12/11/2008 7:58:14 PM
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BeeLuvsAva
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My friend who lost her job was brought back 'as though nothing happened'
(Duh, because nothing happened)
We keep calling it a Christmas miracle because you know how it is to get a corporation to reverse their stance on ANYTHING.
That's amazing! it's really good that they hired her back, I know it can be tough going through the holidays with no job!
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 12/12/2008 12:05:47 PM
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momma_bee
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She was fired. So, they didn't just bring her back - they reinstated her.
The down side? They had paid her for unused vacation, so now she has ZERO days. I don't think she will be reimbursed for the time she was off because she collected unemployment so she probably needed the vacation check.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 12/15/2008 4:47:28 PM
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April75
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Hi Everyone,
Not sure if I have written under this post before. Anyways, I have some questions.
Do most of you want to work outside of the home? Do you feel guilty for not staying home with your children? If your income support part of the household would you give up things like your car or home in order to stay at home with your child? I do not mean live on the street but maybe go to an apartment?
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 12/15/2008 8:58:12 PM
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Hi Everyone,
Not sure if I have written under this post before. Anyways, I have some questions.
Do most of you want to work outside of the home? Do you feel guilty for not staying home with your children? If your income support part of the household would you give up things like your car or home in order to stay at home with your child? I do not mean live on the street but maybe go to an apartment?
Personally, I enjoy working...I enjoy what I do, the challenges, the "brain work" in my job. I was a SAHM when my older children were little, and due to circumstances, i went back to work some years ago. My little ones don't know anything different...and although occasionally I think it'd be nice to be able to stay home, the truth of the matter is, that after about 4 days I'm ready to go back to work.
As far as "giving something up" to stay home with my children...well...considering I make more than my husband, it's just no longer an option...trying to support a family of 4 on his salary is not something I wish to experience.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 12/16/2008 6:44:31 AM
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Like Not Done Yet said, my son doesn't know any different. I too enjoy working -- the social and intellectual stimulation of it. There is a benefit of sending kids to a sitter/daycare which is that they learn to rely on others instead of only mom and dad. I don't regret working outside the home. I, also, am the main earner in our house. It would be difficult for us to live off my husband's salary. With my daughter, I have made arrangements to work from home part time for the first year of her life so she will only be with a sitter 20 hours per week. I feel this is a good compromise that will benefit me as well as her.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 12/16/2008 7:07:01 AM
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I do wish I didn't have to work out of the home and my kids definitely notice and they even get to come with me. The kids I take care of notice too.
I do sacrifice a lot so that I don't work full time. I could sacrifice more but it would basically mean moving myself and 3 kids in with my parents and they(and ultimately neither would the kids and I) would not appreciate that although if I had to they would gladly take us in. I stick with my place if at all possible because it's a great place for what I pay and I couldn't find another place as good if I gave it up.
I sacrifice my sleep. I sacrifice doing special activities that cost money. I sacrifice meals out when it would be convenient. We sacrifice having lots of new toys, gadgets, vacations, etc.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 12/16/2008 8:55:53 AM
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April, can I ask if you'd be asking these types of questions in the SAH thread? This thread is for those who are supportive of a woman's choice to work outside the home, not asking them about their guilt over working.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 12/16/2008 9:01:36 AM
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zoebob
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From April's other posts I believe she is a working outside the home mom and as another working mom I believe those are apropriate questions/concerns for working moms to address. Just because we are working moms and want the support doesn't mean we like having to do it or are happy with our circumstances.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 12/16/2008 9:08:39 AM
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I'm sorry, April. I did try to look up your other posts, but I couldn't since you don't disclose your profile. I didn't know you WOH, too.
I guess I've just seen to many folks come on here and challenge women to stay at home, if only they could give up all the "luxuries" that WOH costs them. A lot of folks don't even think a female can earn enough to justify not being at home, and that any money she makes would be spent on dry cleaner clothes and expensive lunches, but it was wrong of me to assume you were like that.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 12/16/2008 11:32:51 AM
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I wish I could work 40 hours a week and be a home all day and free in the evenings.
I love my work. I love the challange and really like being able to pay the bills. But, my house is a mess, I dislike flylady - but know I suffer from CHAOS, and I don't do nearly as much as I want for my kiddos.
Would it be appropriate for me to tell a co-worker that I can't be their friend and work with them and quite frankly, know we wouldn't remain friends if we didn't work together? I didn't think so... I pick on him, he is insulted. I feel the same way. He comes in and asks for favors and I try to help but when I call, he asks for a billable PO number. So, the next time I'm less than helpful and so is he (it is a money/time thing) but then he wants to chit-chat about his kid, his ex, the Stillers. Umm. If you are my buddy, you will take 1 minute to answer my question at no charge rather than 5 minutes to explain that you won't answer it without a PO. I wish he would just do his work, rather than try to push it onto me and then try to get a new PO to handle it when I say no.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 12/17/2008 8:17:43 AM
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Do you do all the typing? When I went through an agency, a receptionist put my paperwork in as I went thru the intake process (at each agency) It was just a step in the process. She started it when I came in and filled out the application while I took tests, then gave the folder to the interviewer, who made notes in it and handed it back on my way out.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 12/17/2008 11:15:59 AM
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momma_bee
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Even though you aren't 'ready' I'm glad you are ready and able to help your bosses out. That is cool of you.
Can't just put Issac in the corner, now can you?
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 12/17/2008 6:38:56 PM
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BeeLuvsAva
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I do not feel guilty for working , but seeing as I am a single mother, I don't have room to feel guilty, I have to pay bills and feed my daughter and myself. I don't think I would ever be willing to move in with family just so I can stay at home with my daughter.
If I could be a stay at home mom I would love to give all my attention to my daughter, but some things just don't work out the way we want.
Bee
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I did leave a 'please help' note for our receptionist who comes in early every morning but it's still eight clients whose paperwork has not been done yet. 
